It is hardly a secret for anyone that our success in any field depends on our emotional mood. The obstacle to success is often ourselves. Not that you put a little effort, or were not as talented as you would need for maximum results. It’s just that our thinking strongly affects us, although this is not so noticeable. If you do something every day to achieve your goal and think: “I will never succeed,” then the chance of victory is not as great as it could be with positive thinking.
Psychologist's opinion
There is another variant of mental blocks. When you dream of achieving something, you are ready to conquer the peaks, but still do nothing. Psychologists note that often this is not laziness and lack of willpower. There are simply three thoughts in the head that affect motivation, completely eliminating it. Let's talk about this in more detail.
"I don't think I can do it."
Science has proven that we can succeed if we believe in it. Accordingly, if we believe the opposite, then the desired results are more difficult for us to achieve. Remember one thing. We fail not when something does not work out for us, but when we move away from desires, we don’t work on ourselves, and we don’t even try. This is a real setback.
The belief that we are not good enough, that we do not have such talents as Petya, who achieved everything he wanted, reduces our motivation and affects productivity. If you really believe that success depends on talent or hereditary factors, then you are mistaken. You have everything you need to overcome all problems and achieve your goal.
What to do?
What to do to rid yourself of this mental block? Understand that the mistakes we make in the process of achieving the goal are not a failure. This is what will help you gain a certain experience, teach you the right things. Also remember situations when you did not believe in yourself, but still achieved success. This should motivate you. And be sure to tell yourself that all the failures that you will encounter in life are a trifle compared with what you have achieved.
"People like me are not capable of doing this."
Well, all of us have areas in which we do not understand. I told myself that phrase a hundred times when I entered the programming department. I was so far from technology that every time I thought that I was not the person to whom it was given. I was sad that I was not as good as my classmates, so I often did not even try to develop.
What to do?
In this case, psychologists recommend finding a person who also did not understand any field, but then became a professional in it. It can charge you with vivacity and enthusiasm. Motivation will appear, and I know what I'm talking about.
I turned to my friends for help, who not only helped me with the basics, but also developed with me. It has become much easier to handle everything. The main thing is not to focus on the fact that you are supposedly not capable of this. A man can do anything! For this you need to be confident in yourself, your strengths and have support.
"I have to do it, but I don't want to"
This is what haunts us from a very young age. They give us a tasteless porridge, we must eat it, but do not want to. And in the process of growing up, such situations continue to haunt us, becoming more and more serious each time. Many of us work with reluctance, simply because we need to. This is the hardest block, which is difficult to get rid of.
If a person needs to do something that he does not want to do, then he will either completely refuse to do it, or he will do it with unpleasant emotions and through the sleeves. As a result, in front of other people, he will look like a loser, procrastinator, and so on.
When we find ourselves in such situations, we are faced with the task: either to do it through unwillingness, or to do something else that brings us pleasure. Often, the second option wins, respectively, to fulfill a task that we don’t like, we never come. This results in conflicts and other unpleasant consequences.
What to do?
To cope with this block, you will have to work hard on yourself. If these are tasks that you cannot escape from, for example, you cannot quit and find a job better for some reason, then you need to learn how to analyze it correctly. Explain to yourself why and why you should do this. The reason must be sincere, then it will be a source of energy, which is enough to complete the task to the end.
Conclusion
The only way to deal with yourself is to learn to analyze. You need to evaluate all situations sensibly, understand what you are capable of doing and what is not. I would like to repeat once again that the real failure is when we do nothing, just sit waiting for a miracle. We will not become a specialist, we will not be appointed a leader, we will not learn a language, and so on thanks to the thought that we are not able to do this. Motivation is born in the head, and self-confidence is one of its main sources.