It is impossible to build a good professional relationship and succeed if you are not open to communication with your colleagues. However, this is difficult to do, because if you choose the wrong topics for honesty, it can be devastating for your career.
The art of conversation
To highlight the necessary aspects of your life that you can introduce to other people, to reveal yourself correctly is a whole art. It should be borne in mind that there are forbidden topics. The trick is to stop yourself in time, because as soon as you share something, there will be no turning back. There are a number of the most common topics, the disclosure of which in a conversation can adversely affect your future career.
Hate your work
The last thing someone wants to hear in the workplace is how someone complains about how much he or she hates their work. This means that you are a negative person and cannot be a team player. This reduces the morale of the group. Bosses quickly deal with skeptics who lose their fighting spirit, and know that you can always replace such a person with his opposite.
Thoughts that someone is incompetent
There will always be incompetent people at any workplace, and there is a chance that everyone knows who it is. If you do not have the opportunity to help them improve their skills or fire them, then you will not gain anything if you talk about their inability to work well. The statement that your colleague is incompetent looks like an insecure attempt to present yourself in a better light. Your callousness will inevitably return in the form of a negative opinion of your colleagues about you.
Amount of earnings
Your parents may love to hear about how much you get, but in the workplace this only creates negativity. It is impossible to distribute wages so that it is completely fair, and disclosing your salary gives your colleagues the opportunity to compare. As soon as everyone knows how much you are earning and compares with what you are doing, so many will object to your income.
Political and Religious Beliefs
They are too closely connected with the personality of a person, so it is almost impossible to discuss them without incident at work. Disagreeing with other people's views can quickly change a good attitude towards you. Confronting someone else's core values is one of the most offensive things you can do.
Of course, different people have different attitudes toward politics and religion, but asserting your values may push some people away as quickly as they intrigue others. Even a discussion of a world event can cause conflict.
People build their lives on the basis of their ideals and beliefs. Be prepared to listen to others without planting anything of your own, because one disapproving look will be enough to start a conflict. Political views and religious beliefs are so deeply rooted in people that, by contesting their views, you are more likely to get a negative assessment than you can convince them.
What do they do on social networks
The last thing your boss wants to see when you log in to your Facebook account is photos of how you drink whiskey in a bar. There are too many ways that you will look out of place and leave a bad impression. It may be what you are wearing, who you are with, what you do, or even the comments of your friends. These are little things that can cast a shadow of doubt in the eyes of your boss or colleagues when they are about to give you a big task or to recommend you for promotion.It's too hard to censor yourself on Facebook. Rid yourself of troubles and do not be friends with them on social networks.
What's going on in your bedroom
Regardless of whether you currently have a sex life or are completely absent, this information should in no way be the topic of discussion at work. Such comments can make some people laugh, but on the other hand it can even offend them. Talking on this topic will immediately create a bad reputation for you.
Discussion of what other people do in the bedroom
Absolutely none of your colleagues will want to reveal their intimate secrets. There is no more reliable way to scare anyone than to make it clear that you are interested in the personal life of your colleague. It can be anything: from gossip about the sexual orientation of a colleague to a relatively indirect comment such as: "Oh, he has become newlywed again." Such conversations show you in a negative light. Keep your thoughts to yourself, no matter how you evaluate the actions of your colleagues; they do not need to know this.
Own motivation
The announcement of your ambitions at work, when they are in direct conflict with the interests of other people, seems selfish and indifferent to those with whom you work, and to the company as a whole. The best employees want the whole team to succeed, and not just themselves. Regardless of your real motives (some of us really work just for the sake of money), announcing your selfish goal will not help you achieve this.
University Adventure
Your past can say a lot about you. Just because you did something outlandish or stupid 20 years ago does not mean that people will believe that you have made an impeccable judgment since then. Some types of behavior that can be viewed relatively favorably in student fraternity (drunkenness, petty theft, drunk driving, insulting people, etc.), not only show everyone they work with, but can also create a certain reputation. So if you do not have a team and PR people who protect and create your image, you should keep your dubious past with you.
Weekend drinking
You might think that talking about how you got drunk on the weekend does not affect how you are perceived at work. In the end, if you perform your professional duties well, then you are a good worker, right? Unfortunately, this is not the case. Even if you share these two aspects of your life, it will not make people think that you are cheerful. Instead, they will see in you unpredictability, immaturity and lack of common sense. Too many people are negative about drugs and alcohol, so you can tell how much you love this pastime.
Offensive jokes
If there is something we can learn from celebrities, be careful what you say and to whom you say it. Offensive jokes make other people feel and you look awful. They also turn out to be much less fun than clever jokes.
First of all, you need to evaluate its relevance, based on how close you are to someone. If there is someone whom you can insult with your joke, it is better not to pronounce it at all. You never know who people know or what experience they have in life, so you can accidentally joke on topics that your colleagues take very seriously.
Search for a new job
Do not talk about your intentions until the situation with the new job is finally decided. As soon as you tell me that you plan to leave, you suddenly become a person whose interaction with you will be a waste of time for everyone. There is also a chance that your searches will fail, so it's best to wait until you find a new job before telling anyone about it.