Maura Schreyer-Fleming, a sales strategy and consultant, is a working mother. She found ways to combine motherhood with business and at the same time experience comfort and convenience. It turns out that it is not as difficult as it seems at first glance. Maura is ready to share her experience.
Distribute responsibilities
It is generally accepted that a woman should do much more housework than a man. You should never consider who has done more, because this is a voluntary matter, and there can be no coercion here. If you are a working mom, then you bring income to the general budget. Therefore, you have the right to do the work that seems pleasant and feasible to you. A loving husband will always understand that you simply don’t have enough strength to fully manage your household and fulfill your professional duties. Therefore, try to solve the main issues with him or hire an au pair.
Know how to refuse
Maura is a woman in business, so here is an example. People come to her who ask for discounts on the purchase of goods. But she does not always have such an opportunity: to meet customers, therefore she refuses. You also do not have to constantly agree with everything that you are asked. If you are a working mom, and sometimes you make concessions, this does not mean that you must implicitly do what they say to you.
Teach children to take care of themselves
From early childhood, teach children independence. They should be able to dress, prepare lunch, collect a school bag for school, etc. The sooner the child becomes independent, the easier it will be for you to combine home and work. In addition, do not forget to teach kids to stay without you, as this can also cause problems. Leave it with your grandmothers or nannies for a short amount of time, then increase the duration (this applies to young children). Begin this practice from the time you are on maternity leave.
Do not work 24 to 7
Many women are mistaken when they want to cover all aspects on their own. They go to work every day, and on weekends they are engaged in general cleaning, washing and caring for children. In this mode, you will not be able to stay for a long time, because soon all kinds of diseases will begin to prevail over you. Try to arrange your days of rest, allow yourself to rest for an hour during the day. Only a full recovery will help you cope with a lot of things. And if you find yourself in a hospital bed, then not only you, but your whole family will suffer.
Set mode
A reasonable decision would be to voice the mode of your day to your household. For example, after 21 hours you do not work under any circumstances. If your child comes up and asks for help in solving the lessons, or your husband will ask you to sew a button or iron your trousers, you can safely refuse them. Mom’s working day is over and no arguments can be accepted. It’s the same as the opening hours of a supermarket, when they don’t open the door on demand. Speak a similar request to your colleagues (and the boss). They should not bother you with calls after you leave the office. You do not have to give up all your affairs and look for the right numbers in order to transfer them to the office. If you solve the problem with households and employees, your life will become much easier.
Hire an assistant
Calculate your income and think about your profit.If it’s easier for you to hire an au pair or nanny, don’t spare money for it. After some time, you will realize that such savings can cost you health and personal happiness (if you and your husband constantly work in the office and at home, this may affect your relationship). Be practical and love yourself, this will help you to solve all problems safely.