We live in a social world and constantly communicate with a large number of people. And it is very important that these relations are pleasant for both parties. But it’s not always possible to accept your friends or colleagues as they are, because the difference in characters often does not allow us to feel comfortable. Practice these exercises and see how your communication improves.
We are not perfect
Always look at the behavior of another person through his eyes. Do not try to immediately perceive everything negative in your direction. After all, everyone has the right to make a mistake, and you are no exception. This is not about not paying attention to the serious misconduct of your loved ones. Just this moment you need to find out. Well, if you can’t find consensus, just don’t communicate with this person. Well, if something not very significant happened, you need to enter the position of your partner, so you will gain access to a different level of consciousness.
Be optimistic
You yourself know how hard it is to communicate with people who always complain and are in a melancholy state of mind. Therefore, try to always radiate optimism and, if possible, charge others with it. If you are on a positive wave, gloomy people will simply not be interested in you. They like their support more, they also complain and scold the whole world around them. But you adhere to a different point of view, therefore, natural selection will occur, and next to you will be people in a different direction, with whom there will simply be no time to be bored.
Practice empathy
Empathy is a great form of communication that helps people get closer. Do not remain indifferent, put yourself in the place of a person who is in trouble or is experiencing other life difficulties. Timely support can be not only useful, but also salvific. Who knows, maybe this person will someday become a saving straw for you.
Be open and receptive.
It is very difficult to communicate with reserved people who, with their whole appearance, demonstrate hidden aggression to everyone who approaches them. Try to develop openness in communication. Show emotions, delve into the essence of the conversation, do not hesitate to show your interest. In our world of speeds, such quality is in great demand. Everyone who has talked to you at least once will strive for this again. This means that you will never be alone.
The principle of mirrors
You noticed that exactly what bothers you in another person is that hidden part that you have not yet developed. Think about what is hidden in your soul and explain to yourself why you do not want to let it out. Look at yourself from the side: are all your fears, doubts or other shortcomings that you now noticed with your interlocutor so visible? Try to cope with this, then you will give the impression of a self-confident person (and in fact such is).
Interpersonal communication
Never make an opinion about a person according to other people. No matter how many rumors (good or bad, it does not matter), they can never give an objective description of a person. Therefore, try to take a closer look yourself, look at the actions of your friend, colleague or relative, and only then make an idea about him. This will be the most objective assessment of all possible. In addition, you may find qualities that others have not noticed. But they do not need to be especially disseminated, it is better to leave your opinion to yourself.
Prohibition of conviction
Never judge anyone, no matter what situation you and the other person find yourself in. You need to understand that each of us has our own character and principle of perception. What seems great to one is annoying to the other. Therefore, do not judge people from your point of view and do not let others do it. The maximum that you can undertake in a situation where the behavior of your partner discourages you is to understand what is happening, draw conclusions for yourself and stop communicating. But just not the spread of rumors, gossip, excuses and other unworthy moments of behavior.
Learn to be a neutral observer
If the situation does not concern you, behave this way under any circumstances. Let those involved in it take part. Do not try to take sides, do not insert your comments and do not give advice. At least that's what you need to behave when something extraordinary happens. Once everything calms down, draw your conclusions and do not take the initiative. If the situation is specific to you, also become an outside observer, at least for a while. Let passions subside, and only then can you calmly figure out everything.
Thought first, then action
Avoid confrontation under any circumstances. It is so difficult: dealing with overly emotional people. Never rush to respond with aggression to aggression or simply support a quarrel, including your arguments in it (even if they are well-founded). In any conflict, think carefully first, and only then speak, otherwise irreparable mistakes can be made in a fit of anger. Make it a rule to decide everything calmly or leave immediately. Everyone will soon get used to the fact that speaking with you in a raised voice is useless and will behave more respectfully with you. Also, do not forget to answer for every word you have, so allow yourself to pause. There will be nothing wrong with the fact that you are temporarily silent. This will give everyone the opportunity to collect their thoughts and learn information.