According to statistics, approximately 70% of employees do not reveal their potential. People are disappointed in work or in their position for various reasons. These may be inadequate bosses, poor working conditions, lack of prospects, too high competition, and so on.
In such situations, many begin to experience an inferiority complex, insecurity in themselves and their abilities. This can lead to various consequences - from inexplicable aggression to suicide.
Let's figure out how to help ourselves regain faith in ourselves.
How to determine that you have reached a dangerous trait
One of the frequent causes of an individual's apathy for his labor activity is the underestimation of his efforts by his superiors, the collective, and close people. All this causes discomfort in the workplace, dissatisfaction with life, depression. This condition is similar to stress, but without the manifestation of vivid emotions. A person becomes indifferent to everything that surrounds him.
American psychologist Christina Maslak suggests determining that the work squeezed out all the juices from you, according to the following signs:
- when thinking about the office and the company, negative thoughts appear;
- you are indifferent to the opinion of your colleagues, treat them too harshly;
- even a minor comment from management can unbalance you;
- you constantly catch yourself thinking that you are not valued, do not understand, do not take seriously;
- you do not have like-minded people;
- you often think that in another place you will achieve more;
- each time it’s hard for you to gather strength and begin to carry out the tasks, they do not bother you;
- every day you look forward to the end of the shift;
- it seems to you that you are obviously setting impossible tasks.
Psychologists say that you do not need to engage in self-flagellation and seek out your own shortcomings. Specialists have developed special techniques to help deal with this situation and again become a successful employee.
List of big and small victories
Many people are used to making work plans. They write out everything else to do. Such plans help to focus on the main thing, accustom to discipline. Sometimes a person who sees before his eyes a long list of unfulfilled activities experiences confusion and a desire to drop everything. He is afraid of the scale of the upcoming work, he begins to doubt his abilities and realizes that many points will remain on paper.
Another list will help to positively influence morale. Try at the end of each day to write out what you managed to do. Do not think that you need to celebrate something very important. List absolutely all your achievements. For example, it can be reconciliation with a colleague, receiving a promising task, winning a game of chess during a break, and so on.
You will see how much useful and interesting has been done over the past day. This will help to appear in your soul a positive emotional charge, will lighten your mood.
In addition, it is recommended that you compile a list of activities you have undertaken to update your resume and to speak with management about a change in your work experience in the company. To do this, it is advisable to put a date on the pages with your notes, and file the list of cases for each day in a separate folder. Over time (for example, in a month) a lot is forgotten, some events lose their relevance. Your “chronicle” will help to refresh them in memory and, possibly, will open up new perspectives for you.
Power of thought
The American psychologist Carol Duque in his book “Thinking: A New Psychology of Success” talks about the power of beliefs and their influence on controlling human behavior both on a conscious and unconscious level. Our thoughts are able to completely predetermine our life path.
If you have difficulties, you need to analyze them from all sides, develop ideas for big and small changes that are under your control. For example, if your career does not work out as you would like, you can triple your efforts in your current position, come up with new progressive technology and offer its management, change the type of activity. However, you cannot fire your boss and take his chair.
Failures that you encounter can be an incentive to make changes in your life, serve as a motivation for success.
Your thoughts on this matter will help you feel more confident, despite the difficulties.
Support Group
Every commander knows that not only a combat-ready army is needed for victory. A reliable rear is also important. Each person should have friends who will support in difficult times, which can be trusted in any situation.
If you have difficulties at work, have lost confidence in yourself, your support group will certainly help to find the ground under your feet. These people will remind you what you have already achieved, tell you how many positive qualities you have, what talents you have.
With such reliable comrades, you can talk about everything that worries, makes you suffer. You can go on a picnic with them to defuse the situation, or just talk frankly about the situation.
It is very important for every person to be listened to and given advice. This creates a feeling of its worth and need.
Good dream
This is also one of the ways to believe in yourself again. Scientists have proved that regular lack of sleep negatively affects overall well-being, interferes with concentration, and causes irritability for every occasion (or without it).
Of course, all this has a bad effect on work. Inattention at work may result in reprimand and other penalties. A person loses the desire to do something. He wants only one thing - peace.
To always be active and interested in success, you need to plan your day so that you have 8 hours to sleep. You can sleep a little less, but an indicator below 6 hours can cause malfunctions in the work of all body systems. There will already be no time for thoughts about a career. The main thing is not to lose health.
It has been proven that during sleep, the myelin sheaths of nerve fibers are restored. This helps to improve memory and attention. In addition, less cortisol (stress hormone) is produced in a dream. This helps to squeeze out of the subconscious mind all the negative thoughts accumulated during the day.
Favourite hobby
Many people who have troubles at work, become depressed, withdraw into themselves, voluntarily deprive themselves of all the joys of life. Such a course of events will not lead to anything good.
If you are passionately striving to make a successful career, that’s why you spend your free time self-improving, studying additional information, attending continuing education courses and so on, you just drive yourself into a corner. Even cars need a break, otherwise they will burn out. The human body is not iron. All of his systems are very delicate and sensitive. In order for them to function clearly, it is necessary to change the type of activity.
You must be distracted from work for some time to listen to music, watch a good movie, chat with friends, just take a walk along the alleys of the park. It stimulates your brain to work more productively. Spending an hour a day on vacation, you will only win.
The methods we have proposed will help you again feel your value and find a goal that you need to strive for.