Each of us quite often comes across real daffodils. Who are they? These are people who have an irresistible need for admiration. They usually lack sympathy and other manifestations of emotions. Emotionally healthy people have no such problem. Daffodils are usually arrogant, arrogant and demanding, and they also do not like criticism.
You are likely to meet many daffodils at different levels of political and business power. This means that you will most likely have to negotiate with them when you build your business. Not the best part, is it? The good news: you can take certain steps to help you make successful deals with these difficult individuals.
How to calculate a daffodil
This is the easiest task. In a simple conversation with them, their worldview quickly becomes apparent. By and large, they sincerely believe that everything revolves around them. In their opinion, it is they (only they!) Who do great things. They strive to project an image of incredible self-confidence and, of course, consider themselves superintelligent, attractive and incredibly capable. They consider themselves worthy of preference.
As a rule, daffodils attack everything that can call into question their high perception of themselves. Sometimes this enemy is simply imaginary, but its presence makes people of this type vindictive, ruthless. They tend to skillfully manipulate emotions such as guilt, fear, and anxiety. It is important to understand that daffodils can seem surprisingly charming and charismatic.
Psychologists note: for daffodils, the people around them are like pieces on a chessboard, they move them to achieve their goals, and anyone except themselves can be easily sacrificed.
Accept the fact that you are dealing with a daffodil
Sometimes it is impossible to force daffodils to be conscientious and honest. They cannot concentrate all their attention on the conditions of the transaction and rational logical problems, which is why things are moving slowly. And this is not the most pleasant.
In addition, obtaining an adequate result can be extremely difficult. For example, getting daffodils to confess any significant weaknesses is almost impossible.
So what can you do if you have to sit across from the daffodil at the negotiating table? To be successful in communicating with daffodils, you first need to clearly understand their psychology. You must accept that these people are who they are. They never change. Recognizing that this is the case, you put yourself in a stronger and more favorable psychological position that allows you to effectively negotiate with daffodils.
The art of negotiating with daffodils
In all negotiations, you should focus on your goal. Sometimes this requires you to find out what people really need and what they want. Whatever the needs of the other side, you should apparently give it to them - of course, if you want to make a deal. When you bargain with daffodils, you must consider that their main need is your flattery. It seems to prove to them that they are great people. The thing is, psychologists say, that daffodils at heart are very insecure people. Your flattery will make them feel important and strong.
Just let the interlocutor-narcissus understand that you recognize his "greatness" - and you will be surprised at the willingness to work with you that will appear with the opponent.Of course, this does not negate the importance of a competent approach to the conditions of any transaction - the coordination of specifics is always crucial.
This approach can be very difficult for some people. The main difficulty is that you have to overcome your own ego in order to make the daffodil begin to act and move forward.
Example
In one situation, for example, it took a lot of persuasion before a billionaire client wanted to overly praise the owner of the company he wanted to buy. He perfectly understood that he was much richer, had an amazing track record, acquired a large number of companies at a very good price. That is, it was objectively clear that the billionaire was a better businessman than the owner of the company he was striving to acquire. Nevertheless, satisfying this basic need of the seller - the need to seem someone more important and significant, the man was able to conclude a deal. In the end, everyone remained happy. It was a win-win agreement, which probably would never have happened if the billionaire had not conquered his ego.
Remember your ultimate goal
In the end, remember that you can effectively negotiate with almost anyone. All negotiations are focused on meeting the needs of each party. In the case of negotiations with daffodils, the primary need is often that you acknowledge their view of yourself and strengthen it many times over. If you have ever negotiated with daffodils, remember to give them the attention they long for if you want to win.