When people work in a small office, they can have a good relationship with the boss. This is a big plus in terms of both human and professional. And of course, we must strive to ensure that these relationships do not spoil, because this can adversely affect career advancement. Therefore, when you are forced to say no to your boss, you should do it wisely.
Sometimes the boss calls to service on the weekend
Probably, everyone had to deal with a situation when you made plans for the weekend or life made them for you, but suddenly a call rings and your boss, with whom you have a trusting relationship, asks you to urgently come to the office.
On the one hand, you do not want to let the boss down, and on the other, you cannot disrupt your plans. However, some people feel guilty and are afraid to say no. In connection with this situation, experts give a number of tips on how to do the right thing.
Do not give detailed explanations.
When you refuse a boss, it’s best to do it delicately. To say categorically “no” is too rude, so you can ruin the relationship. But to justify yourself, while citing a lot of details excusing you, is not worth it. In this case, it may seem to your counterpart that you have no real reason and you are trying to come up with it on the go.
For example, if you need to visit a relative in a hospital, you don’t need to explain how he is sick, what his condition is and what medications the doctor has prescribed for him, and to emphasize that there is nobody to visit him except you.
It is better to briefly inform you that you would like to help out the boss, but you have an urgent matter. So you ask me to apologize, but the next time you have time, you will go forward. At the same time, you should not feel guilty, because this is your rightful day off and you have really important things to do.
Bend your line
If your boss insists on his own, despite the fact that you have already given a negative answer, hoping that you can change your mind, you should not give up your positions. You need to be solid in essence, but adhere to a delicate form of communication.
You should sympathize with the boss, but invite him to do without you today, because with all your will, you cannot help him at the moment. Such a polite but frank approach will make it clear that further arguments are meaningless. If the boss continues to persist, which on his part will be unprofessional, perhaps you should answer him more harshly.
Don't lose confidence
Often, people on whom you are dependent and who want to get something from you, try to manipulate you, affecting your feelings, blaming or even threatening you. Sometimes the bosses resort to such dishonest tricks, because the lives of subordinates are largely dependent on them.
If you encounter a similar behavior of the chef, do not give in to provocation. Try to be confident. If you start to hesitate, under pressure you will feel guilty or fear for your position at work and you may get blackmail.
But this should never be done. We must continue to stand our ground. Otherwise, you will give an occasion to think of you as a weak person, whom you can continue to "ride" on. And if you decide that by losing to your boss you will not harm yourself, then this is not so: the result in the long run will be exactly the opposite.
Convince the boss of your loyalty
Despite the fact that you should value your personal time and pay attention to important matters, we should not forget about the problems in the service.On the one hand, an employee who refuses superiors needs to think about the chances of career advancement and relations with the boss in general, and on the other hand, one cannot be indifferent to solving production problems.
After all, you don’t want to see you as someone who does not care about the common cause and who does not want to lend a helping hand in difficult times. It may happen that your colleague who is “off” at work, having gone out a couple of times on a weekend, will be in more advantageous positions compared to you.
Therefore, refusing, you should try to maintain a reputation and make it clear to the head that next time, if necessary, you will help him out. And also, having come to work after the weekend, you need to confirm your readiness.
Suggest a solution to the problem
The fact that you are busy does not mean that you do not have the opportunity to put forward alternative proposals to solve the problem. For example, you can offer your consultation, which you will give by phone to those employees who agreed to go to work that day. Or to say that you will be in touch to answer unexpected questions.
There are other options, for example, you can come to the office early tomorrow and fix the problem in a short time. Thus, you will show that you are preoccupied with the state of affairs at work and will do everything in your power to correct the situation.
Keep calm
If it has come to the point that the chef goes beyond what is permitted and begins to threaten that sanctions will follow your refusal, do not give in to provocation and do not be nervous. This will only give an occasion to the boss to suspect you that you have no good reason not to go out to work on a day off and you simply evade work.
Therefore, you should be calm and not abandon your initial opinion, repeating that you have very important urgent matters and you will not be able to appear in the office today anyway.
At the same time, you need to understand that a good manager will not put pressure on an employee using forbidden techniques. He is well aware that his subordinates need to rest from work mentally and physically - for this there are weekends established by law.
Therefore, no one’s threats can be a reason for you to sacrifice your legitimate rest under pressure. And the boss who applies them is not a figure to be guided by.
Keep the situation under control
If you do not have urgent matters on the weekend and you, at the request of your superiors, go to work, make sure that this situation is only an exception, not a rule. When this is a rare occurrence, everything is fine. But if you are forced to do this constantly, then you are being used to your advantage.
In this case, you need to talk with your manager openly and demand a solution to the problem. It is necessary to remind him that the terms of your employment contract, and, accordingly, the labor law, are violated. Point out that you do not have the opportunity to have a good rest and do not have time to regain your strength in order to carry out the work effectively. And if such a conversation does not work, think about a job change.
Remember that, taking into account the needs of production and your boss and coming to the service after hours, you are doing a good job. But you should not forget about yourself, about your personal life, about your own health, good rest and hobbies. You need free time to live a normal life, paying attention to yourself, your family, children, relatives and friends.
And it is up to your superiors to organize the production process correctly, and not to yank you, plugging holes in the schedule of work that arose not through your fault, but through their fault. Therefore, to feel guilty without guilt by refusing the persistent boss is wrong.
And in order to take the right position, one should refrain from being polite, but firm and calm, feel confident in one's innocence, not succumb to threats, propose alternative solutions and keep the situation under control.