Western experts are tirelessly working to make the life of the whole world a little easier. And now we have come to the burning topic: how to combine the upbringing of a small child and work for mom? Yes, of course, there is some difference in realities, but maybe these tips will come in handy for someone and sometime. Therefore, we consider the opinion of Western psychologists and journalists. 5 tips that will help you not to go crazy with a novice mother and a confident professional all rolled into one.
You need to get used to the new daily routine.
Yes, this is inevitable and obvious. First of all, everything needs to be organized properly. Suppose a woman goes to work soon, and the child is still too young to take care of himself. Experts recommend practicing the new schedule a little earlier than my mother actually goes to work. Naturally, any new model needs a “warming circle”.
In the West, in such cases, they resort to the help of nannies; in our country, as a rule, grandparents perform the same function.
Try to relax more
With such a busy schedule, you need to give yourself as much rest as possible. And here fathers come into play, who should help mothers as much as possible, because this is their children too.
The main emphasis should be placed on vacation - shopping, cleaning the kitchen and other household chores should be postponed. If a woman gets up early, then she should go to bed early. Yes, the baby is fed hourly, but as long as he does not need food, you can sleep. At least some American mothers do such tricks.
Do not break the ties that formed during the decree with other moms
Why give up such a wonderful company. A woman who recently gave birth, on the contrary, acquires another reference group, where she can get emotional support. A husband, of course, in this sense can also act as a listener and understand in every possible way, but, as most women on both sides of the ocean believe, he cannot fully understand a woman.
In fact, the last point is debatable: it all depends on how much the father is immersed in the process of direct care of the child. If he is excommunicated from this case, then, of course, he is physically unable to understand his wife and mother.
Do not completely drop out of the workflow
This is not possible at all jobs, moreover, it is not always desired by the women themselves, but if you can do something at work on the decree and this does not prevent you from raising the child, then you need to use the option. In addition, a similar approach to business will raise your reputation to an incredible height in front of the boss.
Need to wait out the tides of natural panic
Perhaps a new lifestyle will make a woman suffer, and she will think that she is completely unable to cope with two things at the same time. Then you can go to the boss and ask to make concessions (take part of the bet or develop a flexible schedule). Of course, in most such cases, both in Russia and in America, the boss will resort to an ultimatum. And nothing can be done here except to find another job. Sad but true.